It’s not uncommon for one person in the relationship to want to take dance lessons while another doesn't. I’ve created some tips and tricks for persuading your significant other to take dance lessons with you, whether to help prepare for a wedding, a special event, or a fun activity together.
Tip #1 - Communicate Your Dancing Desires
Communicate the importance and benefits of taking a dance lesson. In this first step, you should ask yourself why you want to take a dance lesson, then communicate that to your partner. There are many reasons why you may want to take dance lessons. You may want to take dance lessons to share a special moment during your wedding dance and not feel stiff and awkward while all eyes are on the two of you. Or maybe you are looking for an activity to get you two out of your comfort zone, strengthening your relationship. It’s crucial to convey your enthusiasm and explain how dance lessons can enhance your bond long after the wedding day, date night, or special event. If you haven’t already, take a moment to check out the post, Wedding Dance Prep: 5 Compelling Reasons to Take Dance Lessons Before Tying the Knot.
Tip #2 - Address Any Concerns and Fears About Taking Dance Lessons
Listen to your partner and see if there are any concerns or fears about taking dance lessons. Many clients are nervous about taking their first dance lesson, and feeling anxious or embarrassed about dancing is normal. I would have no job if everyone was confident on the dance floor and knew all the moves! So, it’s a dance instructor's job to make clients feel comfortable in the space and give them an environment where they can learn and grow at their own pace. Private dance lessons are an excellent option for couples that may be nervous. A good dance instructor will sense those nerves and tailor the lesson to fit their level. If you two are a social butterfly, you can look for a group class that advertises it’s for beginners or no previous dance experience is required.
"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone." - Neale Donald Walsch
Tip #3 - Turn Your Dance Lesson into a Date Night
It’s fun to sandwich your dance lesson between food and drinks. Dance lessons are a unique opportunity to spend quality time together. Some dance studios will allow you to bring some liquid encouragement or host dinner and dance nights for clients, which could be fun. By making the evening more about quality time together by adding a meal or another activity before your after your lesson, your partner might be more inclined to say "yes" since the dance lesson is only a tiny portion of the whole date night.
Tip #4 - Test The Waters By Starting With Just One Dance Lesson
Start with a trail. You don’t need to jump straight in with a package of dance lessons. Maybe you start with just one or even a virtual class and see how it goes. Or perhaps you look into First Dance Lexington’s Video Series for an at-home date night activity where you can learn to dance in the comfort and privacy of your home.
Dance and Relationships Require Patience and Communication
Patience, understanding, and effective communication are essential when encouraging your significant other to take dance lessons with you. Tailor your approach to their preferences and concerns, and create a supportive and enjoyable environment that makes them feel excited and comfortable about embarking on this dance journey together.
I'd love to hear your thoughts! How did you convince your S.O. to take dance lessons? Was it easy or hard to get them on board? Share your answers below in the comments or email firstname.lastname@example.org.